#GamerGirl

THERE IS NO WRONG WAY TO BE A GIRL IN THE GAMING COMMUNITY

Do you like to stay out of the fight and play the support? Awesome! Supports are what hold teams together. Often times supports are the ones calling the shots! There’s absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to play a healer either. Some people like it, it’s not just a girl thing. Anyone that enjoys that role should play it!

Photo by djlemma

Photo by djlemma

Do you enjoy playing the ‘girly’ character? Cool! Some of them have really fun designs. Some of them have really fun gameplay. Some of them are the strongest characters AND they have the cutest design! You play them because you like them for whatever reason, just as anyone else does with their favorite character. Imagine if we shamed guys for playing very masculine characters.

Do you like to play non-support characters? Go for it! No character is reserved for a certain gender. This doesn’t make you a ‘try hard’. You shouldn’t be told to ‘stick to the girl characters’. Go show everyone you can be the carry and deal the most damage! Be the tankiest of tanks and soak up all the damage! Play the sneakiest of assassins and never let them know you’re coming! Do what you like best.

Do you enjoy cosplaying characters with small amounts of clothing? Have fun! Cosplaying a character with very little coverage can feel empowering to some people. Sometimes cosplaying a male character can be hard when SO MANY OF THEM DON’T WEAR SHIRTS! Yet when a cosplayer attempts to cover their breasts with a bra or bandeau in order to cosplay a shirtless character, people will say it’s sexualized. THAT IS NOT SEXUALIZATION OF A CHARACTER! It’s covering up what is necessary in order to remain as close to the original. A cosplayer is more than allowed to add a shirt if they feel more comfortable. Cosplay is about adding your personal touch to your favorite characters. Please, please, please stop slut shaming cosplayers for enjoying showing a little skin. Do that boudoir shoot as your favorite character! Just make sure you keep the key components of the character such as scars, hair, hat, weapon, anything iconic. (that being said I do not condone this when the character/cosplayer is underage)

Do you enjoy streaming but you have large breasts? Go stream! I know this sounds absurd but do you realize when a streamer has large breasts and they’re not 100% covered up, there’s no doubt she MUST be doing it for attention! Since when did you decide what she’s allowed to wear? A lot of those girls could crush you in the game they stream so why does their cleavage make them less than you?

I have seen so many female streamers, cosplayers, and larpers shamed for all of these. As long as they enjoy what they do and no one’s getting hurt, what’s the problem? Can we just accept the fact that females don’t need to validate themselves to be a gamer too?

Staff Goals

Last post was about the disrespect that I, and I’m sure many others, have experienced throughout some sort of staff position at a LARP. This time I’d like to give some tips on how to get to those staff positions using personal experience. Not everything I say will work for everyone, but if you find yourself stuck in a rut, this might give you a new way of looking at your application.

The first part is simply recognizing that you really want to do this. I remember my very first time at a larp, and I was looking at the directors as they spoke before game on, and thought to myself ‘I want to do that’. I’m not quite there yet, but there’s plenty of time to reach that goal. You can set different goals later, but having an idea where you want to be is great.

Here’s a general breakdown of things to think about when looking at being part of staff

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-Settings/Makeup: I originally wanted to be a Settings Marshal because I loved to play with special fx makeup. While on NPC shift I would offer to help with makeup, but if they didn’t need help I would do what the ST needed of me. Offering help is great, but if the other marshal has it under control don’t continue to try and help. I would post pictures on my facebook page of things that I had been working on, showing my progress and doing makeups related to what I would be doing if I were staff. I took pride in my work and loved what I did.

-Rules: Yes, knowing the rules is important to be a rules marshal, but what’s more important is you. Marshals need to know how to talk to someone from a third party point of view. How you act on your NPC shift will reflect how you would be viewed for marshal. If you’re willing to give it your all every time, put 110% into just being awesome, then you’re probably a great person to have with us. If you’re the type of person that falls asleep on your NPC shift, tries to auction off what they’re assigned to a different player, or hide from the ST, you might want to rethink how you present yourself to other staff members.

-Story Teller: Similar to being a rules marshal, there are a few more things that go into becoming a Story Teller. You’ll need a strong understanding of the world you would be writing for. Think about investing in materials that go more in depth to the world. Really show that you love the game. I would post on my facebook about how excited I would be for games and I was always positive about my experiences. If you post negative things all the time about your game, don’t expect to get a staff position. Keep in mind that being a story teller involves not only a fast paced environment with quick decisions, but it also includes a lot of work between games for writing, prop designing, etc.

Another important step to all this? APPLY. If you never apply for a position, how is anyone supposed to know you’re serious about it? How would they know you have the abilities if you don’t apply? And making several facebook posts insinuating you want to be staff won’t get you the position either. I know it’s scary to put in an application, I was terrified to do it, but I am so glad I got over that fear and just did it. If you’re not accepted right away, don’t worry too much. Just take a look at what you’ve been doing and see what you can do to improve.

Before I end this, let me just go over a few quick points again

- Always give 110%

- Positivity will get you far

- Know the requirements it takes for the position you want

- Just do it and apply

- Love what you do

Sometimes it really is that simple.

 

Something, Something, Disrespect

Hey there! It’s me, Bri, with my first blog post! If you haven’t taken a look at my bio yet, I recommend you do so. It’ll give you a better understanding of where this is all coming from. Once you’ve done so, read on!

 

I’d like to make this post not just on my own behalf, but on the behalf of everyone that struggles to prove they’re just as deserving as everyone else.

 

By being young, by being female, by being tiny, by being bubbly, people think that I can’t do this. You’re probably reading this and thinking to yourself ‘but I respect you!’ and that’s awesome! You’re awesome. Unfortunately though, not everyone thinks like that. Some people look at me and they see someone unqualified for the job because I’m not the stereotype of a Story Teller or a Game Runner.

 

Let’s give a little info on a few types of disrespect I’ve run across in just my 3 years of larping.

1.      “I can’t believe she got the spot and not me. I really thought I deserved it more”

2.      “They only picked you because you’re a girl and they want more females”

3.      “I know that you wrote this, but I think this would be a better idea so we should do my idea”

4.      “I’m too tired to do what you want me to despite the fact that I chose this shift to staff/npc so instead I’m just going to not do it”

5.      “I can teach you how to larp better because I’ve been larping for 10+ years”

 

Now let’s address what it is you are really saying with these phrases.

1.      This is telling me that I am underqualified. Not only are you saying I don’t deserve to be staff for whatever reason, you’re also saying whoever chose me made a poor decision. I applied for my positions just like everyone else did. I worked hard to get where I am. You are ignoring all the hard work, all the hours of writing, editing, prop and costume making, and everything else I put into being staff.

2.      This is pretty obvious. Again, this is saying you saying I don’t deserve what I got, and I only got it because of another reason. Such a shame that you aren’t a female in the larp community, right? Look back at the history or larp. Look back at the amount of females that have held important positions on staff. It’s very limited. So to be told that I’ve got it easy because I’m a girl is just ridiculous. I worked my ass off to prove I deserve what I have, I did not use my gender as an advantage.

3.      This one drives me the most insane. I don’t mind some advice. If something needs to change suddenly and you give me a recommendation, that’s great. The difference is if I know exactly what I want, it’s been pre-written, pre-approved by my bosses, so why should YOU get to change what’s happening? If you want to write the story, then apply to be a Story Teller. Don’t tell the ST on shift that you don’t think something would work simply because you’re not crazy about the idea. Guess what, not every plot I write will be for you. It also undermines those who hired me and those who check my work.

4.      If you picked to be on NPC until 4am, then I expect you to at least try until then. I get it, you’re tired, we all are, but when I ask you to do something, please don’t tell me no. Please don’t complain. Don’t make me out to be the bad guy because I’ve asked you to do your job. I hate being the bad guy. I try to keep high energy through my whole shift. At 4am you’ll still see me smiling, jumping around, telling everyone how wonderful they’re doing because I really do care about you guys. I’ve had occasions where even my staff doesn’t want to do work for me. Imagine telling your boss ‘I don’t feel like working because I didn’t sleep a lot last night so I’m just going to nap at my desk. Don’t bother me’. How quickly would you be out of a job? Now what makes it acceptable to tell me basically the same thing? You chose to take additional responsibilities as a staff member, so please respect the rest of your staff and the players, do your job, then go sleep for 10 hours.

5.      This is one I get when I talk with larpers outside of my community. I can tell them I ST for two games, but they will take one look at me and treat me as though this is my very first time larping. I’m not asking to be given staff responsibilities, but a little bit of respect would be great. Don’t talk down to me, don’t treat me like a child. When I don’t understand a rule at a new game it’s not because I’m some dumb little girl that can’t figure out larping, I simply have a rules questions because I’m new to the game.

 

Now, let’s go over the points again, but let’s go about it with the proper responses. Even if you reeeally feel that you’ve been done wrong because I have a staff position that you don’t, try to look at it like this:

1.      Wow, we both applied and she got the position. That must mean she really did something good to deserve it. I should congratulate her. Maybe I should talk to someone and see how I can improve my own writing so I can be staff too one day!

2.      It’s so great to see more females taking control in larp. It’s something that’s we really need to be seeing more of. Maybe one day even half the staff will be females!

3.      I don’t find this as something that I would personally enjoy, but I bet there’s people out there who would find this great! Maybe I should apply for staff one day because I too have great ideas. This way I don’t have to try and change someone else’s hard work to fit what I want!

4.      I know every time I choose to go to NPC in the morning/late night I’m too tired. I should probably pick a shift where I can work to the best of my abilities. And if I have no choice, I should change my schedule so I sleep more, or nap prior to my shift!

5.      Welcome to our game, if you need any help or have any questions let us know and we will be glad to help!

 

Look how easy, friendly, and respectful these responses are. By choosing one of those responses, not only are you keeping away toxicity, but you are showing that you respect the person. You are showing that you recognize they are where they are because they earned it. You may not realize it, but saying the things previously listed do hurt sometimes. I try so hard to give you the best experience I can, all I’m asking is that you show me some respect in return.